You have financial security on one hand, but then you have emotional security. Most women would like to say they would take emotional security, but financial security is something that is always in the back of their mind. Women hate to think that they can be so selfish; however, what would you think? What would you rather do, have someone who would back you up when you lose your job, and help you make it through the hard times, or someone who says "I Love You"? Most people will say the financial security is something that they would like. If given the opportunity to choose, it may depend on the woman, however, you will be able to find a lot of them going for the financial security. That does not make them shallow either.
People just need to know that everything is going to be okay when everything goes out the window. They just need to know that when everything is said and done, the house payment is on time, and that they have hot water and electricity to live with. It is almost a basis for survival. You may find it hard to believe, but a lot of people would rather take the money over emotional just for the fact that they know they are physically going to be okay. There is nothing wrong with taking the financial security over the emotional security.
It's really nothing personal, but women need to know that at the end of the day everything is going to be okay. Men are still top dogs in the country and in society as a whole. Women know that they are second best in the man's world and they still survive on the knowledge that they need the financial security. You will find that if you take your time and be patient with a person, they will love you for both.
There are ways that you can marry someone for financial and emotional security. In fact, you don't have to be millionaire to get a girl to love you. You need to be responsible. You need to have a ride. You need to have a job. Moreover, you need to pay for things when you two go out.
Being a Man, you are expected to be a gentleman. If you have a job you need to take your girl out and pay for dinner. If you do not have a job, then you need to get a job before you get a girl so that you can seem more useful. Men who take pride in their job or work, and giving enough time for their girlfriends, spouses or children, are more likely to live a happy and fulfilled life - because they are responsible. It is a truly a matter of responsibility than a matter of dollars and cents. The next time you are out on a date, you will want to take the time to ask your girl what they think about this question.
If they say they prefer "emotional security", then you know it actually means 'both', but it is always financial security which most girls deem the higher priority. Ask them if they would ever consider spending the rest of their life with an irresponsible person, because most women will say that they need their man to have class, style, and are responsible persons. Keep in mind that this is your life; however, you will want to think about life in the matter of something called responsibility. You cannot be a kid all the time. What a woman really wants - a guy who acts like a man. You will want to keep that in mind when you go out on your next date.
You may think that women are selfish for looking for the money rather than love, but it's not just about the money. It is like having a backup plan. You have to look at this as more than just money, because it happens to be something that you need to have in life. You need to know that it is okay when everything has gone bad. You need to be able to come home and realize that life is more than just a bowl of cherries and that they are some genuine hard times.
The hard times require a backup pan. You cannot judge a person for this either. Men need financial security just like any woman needs. It is not something that should be shunned, however, you will find that this is something that every human beings needs. Everyone needs to have this sense of security feeling and it is something that should be recognized at the beginning of a relationship.
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